How to Set a Relationship Boundary After Ritual Child Abuse

In order to heal from ritual child abuse, the abuse survivor must find a way to be safe.

People who have suffered from ritual child abuse often did so at the hands of their own family. To heal from ritual child abuse, the abuse survivor must find a way to be safe. As long as your ritual abusers are in your life, you will never be able to do so. 

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You’ll Need:

• Strong desire to heal

• Courage

1. Step 1

   Move far away from your ritual abusers. You will never feel safe as long as these people are in your life. Even if you cut off personal contact, you will still feel unsafe each time you bump into one of your abusers at the grocery store 

2. Step 2

   Cut off all contact with your ritual abusers. Even receiving letters or emails from them is unsafe. Some ritual abusers “program” the child to feel unsafe or self-destruct if he sees certain words written in a certain order. Even if this step seems like an overreaction, try cutting off all contact for a few months and see if it makes a difference in how you feel about yourself.

3. Step 3

   Take measures to ensure your privacy. Get an unlisted phone number and be careful about giving it iyt. Install Caller ID, and only answer the phone if you know the caller is safe. Have your mail delivered to a post office box so it will be harder for your ritual abusers to track down your home address.

4. Step 4

   Find a qualified therapist with experience in counseling people who have suffered from ritual child abuse.

5. Step 5

   Stay disconnected from your ritual abusers until after you heal. As long as you are in the process of healing your emotional wounds, you are not ready to have these people in your life again.